So the posts slowed to a trickle over the past few weeks, what happened? Quite a few things actually, both personally for me and for the blogging sphere.
For me personally these past few weeks have been quite intenses. The reason? I got married that's what. I'm still getting used to the idea and actually writing about it stirs up all kinds of emotions. My girlfriend is feeling much the same. We both figured that getting married wouldn't be that big a deal when we'd already gone through the whole becoming-parents-transition but as the date got closer and closer so did the nerves and butterflies :)
I had big plans of blogging the whole experience but when we actually emerged on the other side as it were as husband and wife I was physically and emotionally wasted. Didn't get much sleep the day before the big day and running on pure adrenaline an entire day is not something I can recommend.
Also who invented the tradition that the bride and groom are not supposed to see each other the day before the wedding? That just stinks of conspiracy and making sure that the groom gets cold feet seconds before the actual wedding :)
This post is shaping up to be quite the ramble but there are so many things and experiences I would like to share from what I can only describe as being the best day of my life. Everything clicked and just worked. I am conflicted about calling my wedding day the best day of my life as it is closely rivaled by the day my son was born. I think the wedding day wins out because the day my son was born wasn't actually filled with happy moments other than the moment when he was actually born, up until then everything was confusing and more than just a little bit scary. Guess the people at the hospital felt that us knowing as little as possible was the best way to go... Not great when you are used to knowing almost everything which goes on around you but that's a whole different story.
I was very much looking forward to the day, the wedding day that is, yes we're actually back on track :) But two things kept my mind occupied the entire and weeks even before the wedding: The speech I would give and the traditional wedding dance which here in Denmark is a waltz with some very specific steps which need careful practice, especially for a guy like me who isn't big on dancing other than when I have a fair amount of alcohol in my bloodstream :)
The speech went great I'm happy to report. The guests were with me from the first paragraph and the first few laughs made me more comfortable and able to give a better speech in the end. I hadn't counted on getting quite the response I got on the speech, people laughed harder of my jokes that I'd imagined when I wrote the thing. I had people telling me how great a speech I gave weeks after the wedding which left a warm and fuzzy feeling, especially because it was people whom I have great respect for. One person told me that he'd never known that I could be so eloquent as I mentioned I have a great deal of respect for this person who is politically involved and used to making clear statements and argue his points very clearly.
Oh yes the dancing went well also. The dance floor wasn't terribly big so people weren't able to see our feet so we basically got away with some kind of pseudo dancing which seemed to satisfy everyone, I do believe that that the rather large consumption of beer and wine had more to do with our success on the dance floor rather than the 30 minutes of practice we got in advance :D
Lots of dancing ensued, inspired by our great performance on the floor I like to tell myself and loads of fun was had by one and all. At least that's the story looking at the pictures afterward tells :)
I was in for a surprise that night; my girlfriend had insisted that she give a speech for me which I of course was looking forward to as she is a very eloquent person very much in touch with her feelings. What I hadn't counted on was the content of the speech. Now a bit of background is needed in order for this story to work so here goes: As you know when people get married it is customary for the bride to take the surname of the groom and of course we had discussed this. My girlfriend had made it clear that her surname was very much a part of her identity, obviously, and she didn't want to take my surname. We talked about this on and off a couple of times and each time she would waver a bit, thinking that maybe it wouldn't be so bad to take my surname but each time she would return to her original argument against it. Of course I told her that I was fine with whatever decision she'd make but that my picture perfect family would have the same surname. I see myself as a progressive person without a great need for tradition so I can't really explain why the surname-thing means for much to me.... It just does :)
Well back to the wedding night and the story: My girlfriend is given her speech and suddenly she pulls out a small present which she hands to me with the words, "I know how much this means to you, so I took your surname as my own". Of course I was speechless and at that very moment I knew that she was willing to do anything for me. I have always known this at some deep primordial level but actually acknowledging it at a higher conscious level was just beautiful. The feelings and realizations of that very moment sums up our entire relationship and for a split second I was able catch a glimpse of our future together.
One thing I would like to warn against is not having someone to do the cleaning up the next day. Somehow we managed to only plan everything before the wedding we hadn't given afterward a lot of though which bit us on the ass the next when we had to get up and clean up. That has got to be the biggest anti climax ever; we spent 6 hours getting the place in shape again and the fun didn't stop there, no no. After that our apartment looked like a crash zone with all the gifts and stuff we had needed the day before. I think it was two weeks before we got everything sorted and our apartment looked habitable again.
If you've made it this long I congratulate you this post is an attempt to add a bit more soul to my blog as it's been pretty impersonal up until this point. I am hoping that if you as a reader will get a better experience from the posts here if you know a little about who I am and what I stand for.